Oooh, this story made me mad for you (and at your manager/patriarchy/toxic masculinity/hypercapitalism/hustle culture)! But I'm so glad you shared it. It's such an important message. I'd only add that I hope you can continue to cut yourself slack. The main person at fault here isn't you -- it's your manager, who (likely knowingly) put you in a lose-lose situation.
Thanks for the reassurance Robin, I was mad at him but then was starting to wonder if I was being a bit of a martyr. But I don’t think so, I was trying my best to deliver under pressure and be a team player. Let’s just say a separate incident with someone else has made me realise now that it was definitely a lose-lose situation, as they complained about me since I deprioritised their requests while taking on this project! So yeah, a lot of hard work for a negative outcome…
I can completely relate on everything you have said. And like you, being kind to yourself and giving you the time needed to rest seems like the most difficult thing in the world. I agree with Robin too, your manager knew full well what they were doing. I am on my last week of notice for my job and someone commented that I've never been appreciated fully for what I do. I am leaving for disability reasons, my manager even said my exit form "made for sad reading and she was sorry I was failed by her and the company". Sad. I hope you feel better soon and that the time you are giving yourself does what it needs to ✨️
Hi Kym, so sorry to hear you've been through this horrible experience. It's so sad how unsupportive workplaces often become these days. With just a little understanding, kindness and flexibility they could be much happier, healthier places and have sustainable workforces. Nobody wins when we become burnt out and quit, taking valuable skills and knowledge with us. Sorry for the late reply, this month has been a LOT and I'm slowly catching up. I hope you get some healing time now x
Oooh, this story made me mad for you (and at your manager/patriarchy/toxic masculinity/hypercapitalism/hustle culture)! But I'm so glad you shared it. It's such an important message. I'd only add that I hope you can continue to cut yourself slack. The main person at fault here isn't you -- it's your manager, who (likely knowingly) put you in a lose-lose situation.
Thanks for the reassurance Robin, I was mad at him but then was starting to wonder if I was being a bit of a martyr. But I don’t think so, I was trying my best to deliver under pressure and be a team player. Let’s just say a separate incident with someone else has made me realise now that it was definitely a lose-lose situation, as they complained about me since I deprioritised their requests while taking on this project! So yeah, a lot of hard work for a negative outcome…
I can completely relate on everything you have said. And like you, being kind to yourself and giving you the time needed to rest seems like the most difficult thing in the world. I agree with Robin too, your manager knew full well what they were doing. I am on my last week of notice for my job and someone commented that I've never been appreciated fully for what I do. I am leaving for disability reasons, my manager even said my exit form "made for sad reading and she was sorry I was failed by her and the company". Sad. I hope you feel better soon and that the time you are giving yourself does what it needs to ✨️
Hi Kym, so sorry to hear you've been through this horrible experience. It's so sad how unsupportive workplaces often become these days. With just a little understanding, kindness and flexibility they could be much happier, healthier places and have sustainable workforces. Nobody wins when we become burnt out and quit, taking valuable skills and knowledge with us. Sorry for the late reply, this month has been a LOT and I'm slowly catching up. I hope you get some healing time now x